First dates can be fun, and at the same time ignite a great deal of anxiety for both parties. You find yourself often wondering and obsessing. Will this person like me? Will I like them? Will they find me attractive? Is he/she the one? And the list goes on. So it’s important to do your part and not turn your date completely off. Although we all know the usual turn-offs — bad body odor, bad breath, unkempt appearance — there are a few others you might want to keep in mind the next time you’re on a first date with that person you’ve been eying. Always remember, first impressions are lasting, so think of it as a job interview, and put your best foot forth. Now, go grab a pen and jot down a few of these first date turn-offs you might not have considered in the past. You just might secure yourself a second or third date!
Constantly Being On Instagram and Twitter
First dates require you to give your date your undivided attention, which is pretty hard to do when you are constantly checking Instagram and twitter. It’s also pretty difficult to hold a meaningful conversation when you’re too occupied with posting images of your food or shoes. We all know how time-consuming deciding which filter to use or editing an image can be, which could make you miss out on some important details about your date. And frankly, it’s just rude.
Discussing Bad Break-Ups
You should always go into a first date with an open mind. No one wants to hear about what your last mate did to piss you off or what caused you guys to break up, on a first date—that is unless you’re asked. And if you are, keep it brief. You never want to come across as being bitter. Your potential partner might get the impression that you aren’t quite over your ex yet, which translates to: You probably still want to be with her/him. Bitterness is not attractive.
Comparing Your Date to an Ex
“You remind me so much of my ex-fiancé.” This is a definite no-no and should be pretty explanatory—one would think. Comparing your date to a former flame is a surefire way to put ideas in your date’s mind. For instance, you are probably still holding a torch for that ex. And besides, no one wants to be compared to someone who didn’t work out for whatever reason, good or bad. Save those conversations of comparison for when you’re filling your friends in about your date.
Boasting About Your Achievements
Granted, everyone wants to be with someone who is successful and well accomplished. And while discussing what you do for a living and where you’ve gone to school can be run-of-the-mill conversation, bringing up your six-figure salary or the million dollar deals you’ve secured, on a first date is classless and arrogant. No one likes a show-off. Most people find confidence sexy, but when it crosses the line into arrogant territory, you’re just outright being a show-off.
Lateness Without Warning or Notice
The worst way to begin a first date is to be late. It is just common courtesy to not have others waiting on you, especially for long periods of time. Yes, we know things happen—traffic, emergencies, public transportation delays—but you should always let your date know if you are running late. Giving them a head’s up will not only show that you have manners, but that you care about their time as well. First date tip: Give yourself ample time and head to your destination early.
Credit/Debit Card Declining
Imagine having great conversation over an exquisite meal just for it to end with, “I’m sorry but your card has been declined.” Eek! How embarrassing for both parties on the date! Your bank or credit card being declined on a first date is surefire way to put a bad taste in your date’s mouth. It screams irresponsibility. If you’re heading to a date and you are the one paying, please do yourself and your date a favor and check your finances before hand. There’s an app for that.
Highlighting your flaws
We all have flaws, no one is perfect. But just like on a job interview, you always want to highlight your strengths. You might think discussing your flaws on a first date is a great way to let your date know everything that’s wrong with you from the jump. Perhaps this will take the guessing game out of dating? Wrong! When you highlight everything that is wrong about you, you show just how insecure you are. You wouldn’t go into a job interview for your dream job and say, “I’m always late, but I’m a nice person,” would you? So yeah, don’t do it on a first date. No one wants to be bombarded with all that negativity. Try highlighting all the great things about you.