“Faster than a speeding bullet” isn’t so super when you’re talking about your man in the bedroom. Unfortunately, a lot of couples seem to be dealing with that situation. According to Dr. Harry Fisch, prominent urologist and expert on men’s sexual health, 45 percent of men climax in two minutes.
Fisch, who has a new book entitled The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups, writes:
“There have been studies in which couples consented to be scientifically observed having sex, and one of the observers timed each session with a stopwatch to make a fairly accurate assessment about the length of the coupling. Not surprisingly, there is an extremely large variation in the time it takes a couple to have sex, ranging from the excessively short (about two minutes or less, which famed sex researcher Alfred Kinsey dryly noted was a ‘frequent source of marital conflict’) to the ‘Are you done yet?’ (over 40 minutes).
An astonishing 45 percent of men finish the sex act too quickly, which is to say, within Kinsey’s conflicted two minutes. That’s pretty speedy. Way too speedy for the average woman to be able to have an orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. At least five minutes, and more like seven, is usually what’s needed for a woman to be able to achieve orgasm.”
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That’s a huge disparity. Fisch suggests gently broaching the subject of your male counterpart getting a medical checkup to ensure that everything is in working order. While it is good to have a checkup to be sure, I get the feeling that most people are just, um, satisfied more quickly than others. I can see that question going left very quickly. My suggestion is foreplay. Have your man warm you up before penetration, so that you have a better chance of meeting him at the finish line instead of being disappointed. Another (more final) option is to find a new partner. Sex is an important part of your relationship and if you’re always unsatisfied, that sentiment can rear its ugly head in other areas of your life.
One thing Fisch and I can agree on is this assertion: “And that’s really the point: not how much sex you’re having, but whether you and your partner are happy with the sex you are having. Quality wins out over quantity every time. It’s all about the satisfaction.” Make every second count fellas!
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