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A few months ago, I went on two dates with a guy I met on the online dating site OKCupid. We emailed and talked a bit before the first; I was looking forward to meeting him and wanted to look good. I usually date people I’m friends with first, so the blind date aspect of online dating makes me want to put forward a greater first impression.
For date one, I wore a new black and white polka dot dress that accentuates my cleavage, makes my waist look smaller than it is, and hugs my ass (in a good way) and, knowing his penchant for high heels from his profile, a pair of magenta suede ones. While they didn’t match the rest of my outfit, they’re a favorite pair of mine that I thought would add a pop of color, along with fishnet stockings. I love the way the silky dress felt against my skin and was glad I’d made the purchase, and indeed, it had become a staple of my wardrobe in the few weeks I’ve owned it. He appreciated it—and told me so within five minutes of meeting me—and I appreciated his appreciation. We went from a bar to a restaurant to another bar, where we made out for over an hour, and made plans for a second date.
Before the date, he told me he wanted me to “wear more eye makeup than you usually do” and wear a brighter red lipstick, with gloss. He said it in the context of a kinky command, and since we’d been engaging in some dirty talk, that aspect of his request wasn’t that out of place. Still, for me, it turned from a cute form of foreplay into a source of insecurity. What if I didn’t get have my makeup done to his liking—would he bail on the date? Would he be checking out all the women who wear makeup everyday, and wouldn’t dream of going out without it?
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