Ludacris has recently found himself embroiled in an intense child-custody battle with the woman he cheated on Eudoxie with. I’m pretty sure it surprises NO ONE that this woman is trying to take Luda to the cleaners with the ridiculous amount of money she’s requesting her pay per month. Of course we all know Luda has money, but the fact that she’s demanding $15,000 per month is beyond excessive – yet I feel absolutely ZERO sympathy for him.
Y’all may think I should be siding with him because we are both men, but the truth is, I’m sick and tired of dudes complaining about the very well-known consequences of unprotected sex. There’s a great way Luda could have avoided this mess – it’s called using a condom.
And please spare me the bullshit broken condom lie, because that is the worst pregnancy excuse I’ve ever heard (which, as a man with eight godchildren, I hear too frequently). I understand that condoms are NOT fool-proof, but if you want me to believe that condoms are tearing easier than WNBA players ACL’s, you must really think we’re all idiots. Look, anyone who has had sex before has been there. You’re locked in a moment of intense foreplay, you’re craving some deep, addictive sex and, in that moment of passion, you forego reaching for the condom and – tip happens. Whether you’ve actually done that or just desired it in your mind but never went through with it, we ALL know that’s what leads to condomless-sex and everything that comes along with it, from infections to children.
But if there’s something I would like to see occur in the minds of more men, it’s the concept that they can’t AFFORD to engage in unprotected sex. Besides the fact that it’s far too risky from a health standpoint (HIV/AIDS related illness is now the leading cause of death among Black women ages 25-34), unprotected sex can result in a child that his ass is not financially endowed enough to take care of, regardless of his tax bracket. Don’t cry tears for irresponsible dudes like Ludacris because they are locked in child support cases – get mad that they still think it’s hot in the streets to smash women with absolutely zero protection.
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Lincoln Anthony Blades blogs daily on his site ThisIsYourConscience.com, he’s an author of the book “You’re Not A Victim, You’re A Volunteer” and a weekly contributor for UPTOWN Magazine. He can be reached via Twitter @lincolnablades and on Facebook at This Is Your Conscience.