Courtesy of The Root
“A guy contacted me on a dating site and started off with ‘I don’t normally date outside my race or my comfort zone, but you’re beautiful and caught my eye.’ I feel a certain way about that statement. I want someone who will be comfy with dating a black woman. Am I reading too much into it?” –I.S.
Not at all. Since he contacted you, it’s safe to say that he’s interested in getting to know you on some level, and I’m sure he intended to pay you a compliment. But he clearly went about it all wrong, since you now “feel a certain way” and rightly so.
You’re not “reading too much” into his comment. If he’d said, “Wow, you’re beautiful” and stopped there — what he should have done — all would be right with the world, and maybe you would even be out on a date somewhere. But he had to go and speak his mind and ruin what could have been a good thing. Who knows?
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