Courtesy of Vibe Vixen
A friend of mine was recently thinking of delving into new territory: the complicated land of friends with benefits. She’s been in a bit of a drought but has a hectic schedule, so she isn’t looking for anything serious. Thinking this setup could give her the best of both worlds, she asked for advice on how these relationships work—as if I’m some sort of expert. But the more questions she asked, the more I realized she’s just not cut out for this type of situation. In an effort to prepare her before she took the dive off the deep end, i.e., stop her from getting her feelings hurt down the line, I had to lay out five things friends with benefits are not entitled to.
No. 1: Dates
If “friends with benefits” meant a man was going to take you out and spend money on you, it would be called dating. That’s not to say you can’t ever grab a bite to eat—on the way to the house—but traditionally, wining and dining is not a part of the equation. If you want food, you’re going to have to get it on your own time and own your own dime, before it’s supposed to go down.