Courtesy of Hello Beautiful
Loyal and fabulous, HelloBeautiful readers already know that there has been a longer than usual “flaunt my new boo” parade over the past few weeks from the likes of J.Lo and Marc Anthony, Zoë Saldana, and now even Miss Halle Berry. New love is exhilarating indeed, however these folks all have something in common, they may have recently separated, divorced or are going through the motions to seal the deal. I do wish their crazy beautiful behinds well, but I couldn’t help but think that perhaps some of these new relationships probably surfaced a little too soon — I know I’m not alone!
I recall going through a few breakups in the past (who hasn’t) and whether or not I was the one given the boot, I needed time to lay low. Some downtime lasted longer than others ranging from a few weeks up to a year. I used this time to pick up slack, regain parts of my self-esteem that may have been lost during the breakup, slowly but surely getting my heart & mind back into the game.
Now, I don’t believe that one should avoid a rebound relationship, but I do believe this is the perfect opportunity to re-establish personal boundaries. Let’s be real, it doesn’t matter how long your downtime is, when you begin dating again the first relationship will most likely be the rebound or transitional in some aspects.
Here are some tips to remember when in a rebound relationship:
- Keep it light and easy: You just emerged from a tsunami, try your best to take it slow. Plan public and fun-filled dates with gaps in between the time you spend together.